To be able to undertake any creative activity, one needs a specific role. Playing the right part is just as crucial as abandoning the same function. The one who understands the family map learned how to build healthy relationships and take the correct position. Identification represents the human inability to leave a role. This type of problem is harder to recognize if the person is not prone to self-observation.
There are, of course, reasons why someone is unable to leave a particular role. The cause is a traumatic experience. The fact is that with identification, one achieves specific goals. Still, the problem with identification is that the person does not want or cannot leave such a role. Then by manipulating the environment, one tries to keep the circumstances that confirm the role’s existence. By ‘walk toward the goal,’ one is placed in a self-observation position, making it possible for one to open and resolve many traumas that prevent one from self-manifestation.
Identifications also have their structure, and one needs to know something about them to recognize them. Because one who is not inclined to self-observation knows very little about one’s behavior, it is beneficial to point out the problems. The method of discretion and creation is handy in this type of work; it facilitates deidentification.
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